Managing workplace romance in the era of #MeToo
Amy McAndrew |
With Valentine’s Day upon us, employers likely are hoping that romance is not in the air – at least not in the workplace. With US workers spending so much of their time at work, it is not surprising that, according to a 2017 survey by CareerBuilders, more than a third of employees report having dated a co-worker.
While there are workplace romance success stories – Michelle and Barack Obama met at work, as did Bill and Melinda Gates – relationships in the workplace – and their inevitable breakups – can cause headaches for employers. The drama surrounding these relationships can adversely affect employee morale and productivity. Workplace relationships also may lead to claims of favoritism or sexual harassment.
Recent research by outplacement and executive coaching firm Challenger, Gray & Christmas found that many companies have been trying to tamp down on romance in the workplace. Seventy-eight percent of respondents to the June 2018 survey said that they do not allow relationships between a manager and a direct report, and fifty-one percent said they “discourage” relationships between managers and subordinates or employees of the same department.
What is the best way to approach these issues? With Equal Employment Opportunity Commission reporting that workplace harassment claims are increasing and no sign that the #MeToo movement is slowing down, employers should be taking proactive steps to limit workplace drama and potential liability, such as the following:
A written policy regarding dating.
One way to address workplace relationships is to establish workplace dating policy. This may be included as part of a comprehensive anti-harassment policy or as a stand-alone policy. Having a code of conduct provides a guide for employees as they navigate through the reality of romantic relationships in the workplace. It also enables employers to discipline employees for behaviors that violate the code of conduct without the discipline being tied to the employee’s romantic relationship.
Consider love contracts.
A love contract is a written document in which employees who are in a romantic relationship affirm that it the relationship is consensual, that they may leave the relationship at any time without fear of retaliation and that they understand and agree to comply with all company policies, including the company’s code of conduct, anti-harassment policy and reporting requirements. While such contracts can provide a layer of protection to the employer if a workplace relationship sours and one or both of the employees claim the relationship was nonconsensual (or that he/she was a victim of sexual harassment), they are not foolproof. In addition, some employees will view having to sign such a contract a violation of privacy.
Have in place an anti-harassment policy that is comprehensive, easy to understand, and regularly communicated to all employees.
Of course, all employers should have in place an anti-harassment policy that clearly prohibit sexual harassment, defines what constitutes sexual harassment in terms easily understood by employees, and require employees to report sexual harassment. Any such policy should include a harassment complaint procedure that is accessible to all employees and has multiple avenues for raising complaints. The policy also should state that the company will promptly and thoroughly investigate all complaints and that the company will not retaliate against any person who reports or participates in an investigation of sexual harassment.
For MEA Members, we have provided a sample employee handbook policy pertaining to “Romance in the Workplace” available for download in Member Tools.
Regularly and effectively train supervisors and managers about how to prevent, recognize, and respond to conduct that, if left unchecked, may rise to the level of prohibited harassment.
Having written policies is important, but it is equally important that managers are thoroughly trained on how to respond to sexual harassment complaints and how to recognize potentially problematic situations even if no complaint is made – such as workplace dating. Depending on where an employer is located, it may be required by law to train supervisors and managers. Even if such training is not legally mandated, however, it makes good legal and business sense to regularly provide it.
Workplace romances can be a problem for employers. They can affect productivity and morale and result in claims of sexual harassment and unfair treatment. Being proactive about addressing workplace relationships can help guide workplace conduct and limit potential liability if and when these relationships end. Employers should consult with experienced human resources professionals and/or labor and employment counsel with any questions regarding these issues. For MEA members, the Hotline and a Member Legal Services attorney are available to provide this assistance.
About the Author
Amy McAndrew is MEA’s Director of Member Legal Services and has over twenty years of experience as a labor and employment attorney.